Month 1 Worry: Is It OK to Let My Infant Cry?

What Parents Can Do

When your baby is crying, it is so important to remain calm. No baby has ever died from crying. (But as previous stats show, babies can be hurt by overwhelmed caretakers.) On the other hand, letting a young infant cry for extended periods is not particularly beneficial to that infant, as far as we know. Remember that infants younger than four months of age do not cry to manipulate their parents. They are just trying to communicate a need: "Hold me!" And infants cannot harm themselves in any way by crying.

Try swaddling, white noise, gentle motion, feeding, skin to skin contact, pacifier use, or the classic ride in the car. Cuddling my kids and lots of late-night ESPN got me through this period. Call your pediatrician if you think your infant's fussiness is extreme. This is subjective, but if you've tried all the typical comforting measures and things are still hairy, it may be time to check with your provider.

What the Docs May Do

Your pediatrician will consider possible diagnoses, such as reflux, protein allergy, feeding intolerance, constipation, corneal abrasion (a scratched eyeball), hernia (a bulging of the scrotum in boys or where the upper thigh meets the lower abdomen in girls), and hair tourniquet (an unusual condition when a hair can get wrapped around a toe causing swelling and pain) to name a few.

Colic, also known as the infant fussy period, is described many ways by the "experts." Whatever its cause or explanation, it is parent code for "Wow! This baby is REALLY fussy." As far as we know, extremely fussy babies grow up to be normal adults. Keep this in mind as you continue through this trying time.

Having a baby who is unusually fussy or suffering from colic can be very stressful for parents. Discuss this with the pediatrician, get support from family and friends, and take needed breaks. Never ever rock a crying infant too vigorously or shake the baby. This can result in shaken baby syndrome, a serious and life-threatening injury to the infant.

More 1st Month Health Help

Even the most confident parent has concerns about her child's health and wellness from time to time. Learn more about which medical issues are most common at each baby age, here. (If you have any pressing concerns or questions about your baby's health, please check with her healthcare provider.)

• Learn which medical question you might have next month.
• Here's what else is happening with your baby's health and development this month.