Your Clever Toddler in Week 90: Beginning to Delay Gratification

Know that kids who can wait (and later, who plan while they wait) succeed better when presented with challenges at school, in relationships, and when employed. It may seem like a small move, but saying no to your child's demands for immediate attention or objects—toys now, cell phones later, cars even later on—can actually positively impact her socialization skills. So feel confident enduring and addressing the whining or meltdowns that result from your delaying your child's gratification, now and as he ages. (Prepare yourself with these tips for the surefire tantrums to come.)

One consideration: In the research studies, the task of resisting the telephone was the most difficult for the toddlers because it was in clear view. The raisin was covered by a cup and the children didn't know what was in the wrapped package. What's the take-away? If you don't want your child to touch a forbidden item, cover it up, put it away, or put it up out of reach. Then redirect your child's attention to something else desirable: It's a tactic you still have in your parenting arsenal at least through your child's third year.

Coming soon, look forward to: Week 91: Mastering Tool Use
Review the most recent accomplishments: Week 89: Announcing Accomplishments

Curious about how else your toddler might be developing right now? Learn more about her clever brain and her growing body here:

• What's happening in Month 21?
• Here's what our pediatrician says you might be worried about this month.