How These Moms Found Their New Normal
Having a baby changes everything—especially us. As parents, we possess superpowers: whether or not we've slept, had a shower or have any idea what day it is, we can feed, cuddle and care for our babies with intense focus and gentle might. The good news is that our new, mightier selves are here to stay. And the other good news is that we will also, one day, sleep and shower again. As for knowing what day it is? No promises … but things will return to a certain kind of normal—The New Normal—eventually.
I asked five moms what got them there. Check out what they had to say—you'll be surprised by how simple their answers are!
A Fresh, Clean Start
“Honestly, the night I got to tidy up my kitchen by myself helped me to feel more normal. My mom and husband had been so amazing at taking care of all the housework so I could focus on my baby, but being able to actually load the dishwasher felt so good and refreshingly … normal!”
—Jennifer Lima, mom of one, Smithville, Ontario
Goodbye Maternity Jeans!
“When I started putting on real clothes. No more yoga pants and nursing tanks, no more maternity jeans and holey concert tees that were meant for easy boob access. These were real, nice, clean adult clothes. It meant buying new jeans because I wasn’t quite back to the old ones, but showering and putting on jeans that buttoned and a cute top made me feel human again.”
—Becca Woodward Tabbutt, mom of two, Parkesburg, Pennsylvania
Waking Up and Smelling the Coffee
“Re-introducing my morning cup of coffee into my routine really shifted things for me. Even if I had barely slept, it helped me to differentiate between night and day, and it was nice to take a moment to just sit, catch my breath and sip something warm.”
—Lisa Mackellan, mom of two, Kansas City, Missouri
Some Much-Needed Pampering
“Bi-weekly nail appointments keep me sane. Sometimes I go alone, sometimes with a girlfriend. Just getting out for a few hours twice a month, pampering myself and relaxing makes me feel like a human being again!”
—Rhiannon Clark, mom of one, Woodstown, New Jersey
Becoming a Star Nurser!
“I started to feel normal when my daughter turned about 12 weeks old, and I suddenly became a star nurser. It no longer took us 45 minutes to feed every couple of hours. Instead, she’d pop on the boob for 10 minutes, drink her fill, pop back off again and be good to go for three more hours. I could even feed her while wearing her. It was a whole new level of freedom.”
—Michelle Brady, mom of one, Bend, Oregon
My wife and I had the privilege of welcoming three newborns into our home, and we experienced all the joy (and exhaustion) that came with each of them. Now that our last child, James, is nearly five months old and our newborn days are behind us, I can’t help but feel a bit wistful.view gallery
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