How to Shop for Your Multiples (without Feeling the Pinch)
Two of a Kind?
Parents of multiples often wonder how to handle gift-giving. Is it best to buy each child the same toys, the same toys but in different colors, or different toys altogether?
Mollie Niederpruem, mother of five-year-old twin boys, has maintained the same approach since her children were born: same gifts, same colors. She notes, “My boys came out of me competitive over everything: my time, my attention, my space. So [buying two of each] works for us.” Even after purchasing two of each item, her boys still irrationally long for whichever toy the other is playing with at any point in time, so Mollie labels each toy with the first letter of the owner’s name so there can be no disputing to whom it belongs.
Bari Baskin, mother of two-year-old twins, prefers a different tactic. “I believe that it’s important for the kids to learn to share and take turns, whether they want to or not. Therefore, we purchase different toys for each child.” She also hopes that buying a greater overall variety might extend the life of the newest stimulating gadgets—assuming that her children are in the mood to share one day or another.
Neither approach is right or wrong. Whether you choose to purchase two red Wiggles guitars or one red Wiggles guitar and one yellow Fisher-Price school bus is completely dependent upon what you feel will work best for your family any given year. However, no matter which method you choose, there are a few lessons that those of us who’ve been in the holiday trenches with multiples have learned over the years—lessons that help ensure that your sanity remains as intact as possible until it’s time to fall into bed in your (hopefully) newest pair of comfortable pajamas.
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