Why The Wait To Debut North West? Moms To Mixed Babies Know The Answer
The highly anticipated first photo of Kim and Kanye’s baby, North West, has finally hit the web. After three months of patiently waiting to catch a glimpse of the new baby, North’s debut was made on her maternal grandmother’s new talk show, The Kris Jenner Show. Soon after the show aired, Kim Kardashian tweeted the same photo, simply saying “NORTH”. No doubt very proud of her beautiful daughter, many people are left wondering why Kim and Kanye waited so long to introduce her to adoring fans. A question that many mothers of mixed race babies can guess the answer to.
While privacy and protection are of utmost priority, you have to wonder why these media-loving celebrities took their sweet time to show off their most valuable accessory. She is definitely adorable and as grandma Kris described her granddaughter, “North is the cutest. Such a beautiful combination of them both.” But moms to mixed babies know – the way a biracial child looks when she is born is often very different than how she will look only a few months later. And commentary on your newborn’s appearances, regardless of how well-intended, can make new moms defensive.
Even celebrity babies with two parents of African American heritage are subject to the harassing line of questioning – is that really your baby? Remember those rumors Beyonce endured when images of a newborn Blue Ivy hit the web? The accusations were plentiful, insisting that Beyonce and Jay Z’s daughter was not in fact theirs. Having watched that drama unfold, I wasn’t surprised to hear that Kim and Kanye decided not publish a single image of their new baby after she was born. Avoiding speculation on your newborn’s constantly changing skin tone or hair texture is likely the last thing Kim wants to deal with.
Being a mom to mixed race babies, I can relate. After my daughter was born a pale white with black, straight hair, the handful of side eyed glares did not go unnoticed. Did I cheat on my husband? Was she really his baby? Exhausted and struggling to breastfeed, having to answers for my child’s very fair skin was troubling. Within three months, her pigment started to darken. At six months, her curls started to emerge. Now at three years old, her curly mixed hair is a beautiful combination of kinky and loose curls. Two years later, my son was born darker, and the curious (although not intentionally mean-spirited) questions began almost instantaneously – how dark do you think he’ll get? As I transitioned to becoming a mother of two, speculating on the darkening of my newborn’s skin was probably the last thing I wanted to do.
While their skin colors are almost identical now, both of my mixed babies were born looking very different than they do today. And I know I’m not alone, as many moms of mixed babies deal with similar reactions from family members, friends and strangers alike. Perhaps that’s why Kim and Kanye waited to debut baby North’s first picture. Of course privacy is a big deal, but as a mom to mixed babies, I think Kim made a smart move by waiting until North was at least three months old and starting to look more like the beautiful mixed baby she is.
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