Darcy knew exactly how she was going to parent until she had kids. While on maternity leave in 2010, her job was eliminated, making her an unexpected stay-at-home mom. Daily she learns how to juggle two littles, battle toy clutter and find ways to laugh at herself. She’s given up on the notion of perfection and the mystical balance everyone keeps talking about. Darcy is passionate about birth and strives to inform, inspire and entertain through her many “Tales From the Nursery.” Aside from being a mom, this Wisconsinite also enjoys reading, heavy metal music, and other assorted geekery. Oh, yes, and cheese.
When I was pregnant with my first baby, I looked forward to joining a moms group. I really didn’t know anything about them, but I liked the idea of getting together with a regular group of moms and their kids. In my mind it’d be like a circle of best friends. And I was going to need new mom friends since I had few friends in the havin’ babies life stage with me.
Unfortunately, I didn’t really know how to find a moms group to join. Plus, I was feeling intimidated and insecure, not only as a new mom but because finding new mom friends felt like dating.
Once my daughter was about a year old, I felt the need to find a group. I figured at least my daughter should have some other kids to interact with. A few months later, I joined a group based on a recommendation. I paid the membership fee and started taking my daughter to their meetings. It wasn’t easy to be as involved as I wanted to be since we only had one car. Most of the activities were scheduled during weekdays when my husband needed the car for work. I tried to attend what I could, but needed to find a few activities closer to home too.
I used to think being a mom was easy until I had kids. I mean, I was awesome at babysitting and being an aunt–how hard could it be? For a short period of time I even believed the misconceptions about how much harder or easier it was to be either a working mom or a stay-at-home mom depending on how someone spun it. That’s the problem with trying to compare apples and oranges though.
When I was pregnant and working, I thought my life was harder than when I wasn’t pregnant. Then being a mom of one was harder than not having kids. Now, being a mom of two has been harder for me than being a mom of one. Those comparisons are really the only ones that matter because they mark how my life has changed over time.
As a new mom, I frequently critiqued my parenting in comparison to other moms. It created undue stress and made me second-guess myself. I’d feel guilt because “so and so” could do XYZ and I was lucky to survive the day without needing to change my shirt twice. It has taken time to stop comparing myself to other moms, to truly understand the concept of not comparing my behind-the-scenes with someone else’s shining moments.
Recently, my family and I were invited to Walt Disney World for a preschool family blogger event. It was my 3-year-old daughter’s first time going, and to say she was excited is a bit of an understatement. Throughout the trip, I made note of her running commentary. The following quotes are the best ones I believe my daughter would have tweeted if she had her own Twitter account.
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I have great admiration for pumping moms and moms who donate their breast milk to help others. Other than a short period of time when my daughter forgot how to latch, breastfeeding both of my children has been relatively easy. Pumping, on the other hand, has never been easy for me.
Even though we knew I would continue being a stay-at-home mom by the time my supply stabilized, I started pumping to build up a freezer stash. I figured it would be good to have for date nights and other times away or to donate to a milk bank. My body never responded well to a pump and it became a source of frustration. It’d take me several days to pump enough milk to leave my baby with one 3 ounce bottle.
I thought I was done with awkward dating after getting married, until I went searching for some new mommy friends. After my first mom date didn’t ask me out again and stopped returning my emails, I realized how much the whole process was like dating. Can you relate to these stages?
You see them everywhere. At restaurants, the doctor’s office lobby and on airplanes. Anywhere you might sit and wait they come out. And people of all ages are using them.
I’m talking about mobile devices. There’s no denying that smartphones and tablets have integrated themselves into our daily lives. They’ve become commonplace among adults and now are trickling down to teens and even toddlers. In fact, tech savvy toddlers and preschoolers learn how to use a smart device before they can write their name.
I look at the past four years or so and it blows me away how much we use this technology now. Over the course of my life, I’ve grown up alongside video games and the internet becoming more prevalent. My parents purchased our first home computer when I was about 8 years old—before everyone had one at home.
I’m thankful that my parents saw the learning potential of our home computer and allowed me to use it before they were in my classroom. Now, you pretty much need basic tech skills in your personal and professional life.
My preschooler has learned that simply asking for things or whining usually doesn’t get her what she wants. Instead, she’s developed skilled persuasion and negotiation tactics. These are a few of my favorites—even if they weren’t all successful. Can you relate to these?