Know someone who’s expecting twins? I’ve got a roundup of baby shower and new baby gifts that are a double dose of adorable (and practical)!
Ellen Schmidt has been hauling a stroller on the subway since 2009, when she first began her blog, Baby Meets City. Mama to two sweet and precocious little gals, Ellen writes about the highs and lows of parenting in New York City. Always an adventure! A lover of children’s literature, Ellen is (slowly) reviewing every children’s book set in the Big Apple. Ellen lives in Upper Manhattan with her family, though if you ask her older daughter, she’d prefer if they lived at the Museum of Natural History.
Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard, new parents of a baby girl, are leading a fight to protect the children of celebrities against photographers who ambush them in quiet family moments the rest of us take for granted. They’re calling this group “pedorazzi,” which specifically targets paparazzi who sell unauthorized photos of children.
My husband has just arrived home after a month long stint working at the Winter Games in Sochi. As a media professional, he had a few hurdles to overcome with housing and food (you certainly read all about it) and sufficed to say, he was as ready to come home as we were to have him.
How many times have you heard the saying, “You don’t fully appreciate something until it’s gone?” Well, it certainly applied this month.
It’s common knowledge that most birth defects affecting the brain or spinal cord in babies can be avoided by boosting levels of folate (vitamin B9) during pregnancy. And if you’re looking to become pregnant, you know to start taking your pre-natal vitamins right away.
Knowing that, there’s rather shocking news out of Great Britain: a large study of expectant moms in the country (nearly 500,000!) has revealed that less than one in three of them are taking this advice, with most avoiding folic acid and the essential supplements while pregnant. Even worse, the study found that almost half the women who had experience with previous pregnancies where there was a neural birth defect were still omitting folic acid from their diet, and only 51 percent were taking supplements.
As a parent, you look forward to “firsts.” Your child’s first time walking, first time riding a bike, first ballet class, that sort of thing. But I must admit that while I wanted to be present, I did not look forward to my daughter’s first trip to the dentist at age 2.
Let’s be honest, I don’t know anyone who likes going to the dentist, myself included. Obviously, I know taking care of your teeth is very important (and going to the dentist is essential), but it doesn’t mean I have to enjoy the experience. And while I was very positive and upbeat as I prepared my daughter for her visit (I could have won an Oscar for that performance), I wonder if she sensed that I was going overboard for a reason.
So much about a circus theme makes sense for babies—namely, bright colors, festive flags and lots of animals! Check out this roundup of three ring circus inspiration. Fun!
Thanks in part to Disney’s Ariel, the idea of mermaids are great fun for little girls. They’re also an adorable option for a nursery theme. Regardless of whether or not you’ve got a baby Pisces on the way, mermaids are a soothing and whimsical look for a sweet baby girl’s nursery. Click through for some of my favorite options!
There’s no question about it, this has been a rough winter here in NYC (even worse if you’re a transplant from the south who will never get used to life below 40 degrees). We’ve been blasted with snow and wind for what seems like months, and this morning was no different.
Here’s a little bit of what our day was like. If I could add video to include tantrums and whining for full effect, I wouldn’t, because who wants to hear someone else’s kid have a meltdown?
6:30am: Make executive decision to keep four year old home from school. Snow currently blowing sideways; don’t feel the need for exfoliation treatment on walk uphill to subway. Quite possible I may end up regretting this decision, but let’s keep that between us, okay?
Annabel Monaghan’s “An Open Letter to My Husband: Don’t Ask Me What I’m Up to Today” has me inspired. Except here’s the working title of my post: “Dear Husband, Don’t Say That Again If You Know What’s Good For You.” The “if you know what’s good for you” is for dramatic effect, of course. Let me give you the back story.
For years, well, ever since children entered our realm of thinking and then actually appeared in our lives, I have wished for what I felt was the perfect scenario; the ideal work/life balance. In short, I would be able to work from home, dividing my time between caring for our daughters and finally being able to do what I love (i.e., writing). So when I was laid off a year ago, it truly was a blessing in disguise. Finally, I was able to make my “dream” a reality.
One year later, I can tell you that in this brave new world, I am now working harder than I ever have in my life, with less sleep. It has its perks, don’t get me wrong. I am writing this in elastic waist pants, for crying out loud. And I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been grateful for being present with my younger daughter, and simultaneously how sad it makes me when I think of what I missed with my older child when I was working full-time. I love that I have these extra moments with them, plain and simple.
But there are challenges. For instance, I’ve started and stopped this post about 15 times to change diapers, play blocks, put the princess castle together, fix lunch and pick up my older daughter from school. I feel constantly pulled in different directions between getting my work done and spending time with my children. The guilt is palpable, so much that I spend most of my writing time at night after they’ve gone to sleep. A year later, I am still trying to find that ideal work/life balance.
So when I casually mention an anecdote from the day to my husband that’s probably along the lines of “Millie whined all the way home from school” or “Vivian threw a colossal fit and then I had to finish a deadline,” he responds with (what I sometimes perceive as) a jovial, “Well, this is what you said you wanted!” That statement, my friends, drives me bonkers. Mind you, this is coming from someone who is generally the more thoughtful and communicative of the two of us. And I know that he has his own professional pressures, I do. I don’t ever want to lose sight of that, but I can’t help but feel like he thinks I’m at home eating bon bons all day with a few meltdowns thrown in for good measure.
YES, this is what I wanted. This IS what I want. But I need to be able to vent a little bit for my own sanity without feeling like I should be questioning my decision to be a work-from-home mom. Every day is not going to be perfect; far from it. So while I work on accepting that, my husband is busy crafting a better response to my daily recap.
In a recent, in-depth study on the labor process, researchers at The University of California, San Francisco looked at more than 42,000 women who delivered vaginally between 1976 and 2008. The study compared the length of the second stage of labor, which is basically the amount of time it takes for “pushing” the baby out, among women who chose to have an epidural and those that did not.
It is widely accepted that administering an epidural can lengthen labor by about an hour, but researchers found in this study that it’s actually between 2-3 hours longer.