One Mom's To-Do List Before Trying to Conceive Again
There are several things I'd like to do before trying to conceive baby number three.
Deciding when to try for baby number two was easy. We knew we wanted our kids to be about two years apart, but weren’t sure how long it would take to conceive the second time around. It took much less time to get pregnant with my son than with my daughter. Since having my son, we’ve been contemplating whether or not to have a third. Even though there are plenty of signs that I’m not done having babies when you look around my house, the decision has not been as clear internally until recently.
Last month Aunt Flo returned for the first time since conceiving my son, which brought a flood of mixed emotions. Then she was late this month and I began to suspect I might be pregnant. I got scared and excited. For the first time ever, I sneaked around to purchase and use at-home pregnancy tests. By the time I used one, I was spotting. When the test read negative I was overwhelmed with disappointment, yet relieved. My disappointment (which led me to pee on one more stick-you know, just in case) made it clear that I’m not done. My inner dialogue has questioned my sanity for entertaining the idea of growing our family, but it’s easy to doubt myself. Heck, I questioned whether or not I could be a mom of two, but I knew to my core that I wanted my babies.
The sense of relief told me it just wasn’t the right time because there are some things I need to do before trying to conceive again:
#1 – I need to lose weight. Even though I’m at my pre-pregnancy weight, I am not at a healthy weight. I may not reach my goal weight before the next baby, but I want to make progress first–for my health and for my kids.
#2 – My husband and I need to sit down and really discuss it. We’ve talked about it some but not to the extent we did with our other two. It’s been mostly a “maybe, probably yes” type situation. Plus, I hated sneaking around with that test. I don’t know why I felt the need to because I never did before. I even told him how ridiculous I felt after the fact.
#3 – I need to finish paying off my son’s birth. Having babies in the hospital can be expensive, even with good insurance. I’m thankful for our payment plan, but don’t want to add to the bill right now.
#4 – I need to have an A1C test before trying to conceive. Since I had gestational diabetes with both of my pregnancies and I’m at risk of developing Type 2, it’s important for me to have blood work done ensuring normal blood sugar levels at the time of conception. The A1C test basically provides an average blood sugar level for the past 90 days. If it’s too high (in diabetic range), there is an increased risk for development issues during the very early weeks of pregnancy.
#5 – I need to continue working on letting go of distraction. It’s the only way I can ensure providing enough attention with all of my kids. It will also lessen my stress and improve how I respond and react to unpleasant behavior.
#6 – I also want to finish working on potty training and my daughter’s room transition. Those are big milestones for her and we don’t need big life changes happening until those are complete!
Most of these are in progress now, but I’ll feel more prepared with the thought of it all once I complete my to-do list. Of course, life might have other plans and ignore my list completely.
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