6 Reasons Why Not To Freak Out On Their First Day of School
If sending your baby off to their first day of preschool doesn't warrant some freak-outs, I don't know what does. But making a huge fuss over this milestone may not be in your little one's best interest. Here are 6 reasons why you should hold back the tears and contain the freak-outs for when you are safely out of earshot - like in your parked car.
If You Freak Out, This Is For You
I get it! I freak, too. I am guilty of excessive worry when dealing with any occasion that my little ones are away from me. But, I’ve learned some valuable lessons from my preschooler’s first day of school that will hopefully help other freaked out parents remember why its better to stay calm and focused.
They Aren't Afraid
To help me through the morning, I reminded myself that the fear I felt for my daughter’s first day of preschool was mine, not her’s. While walking her through what the first day would be like, I learned that she held not an ounce of fear in her little body. School has not yet become a place for anything but fun, crafts and sweet-toned teachers. Why spoil her with my own preconceived school fears?
Unless You Tell Them To Be Afriad
Knowing that my girl is very in-tune with my reactions, I make it a point to outwardly show less anxiety and fear than I might actually be feeling. In discussing her first day of preschool, I realized that she wasn’t afraid. New friends, new environment, new teachers just meant another opportunity for fun. She would, of course, totally freak out if I told her to. Regardless if you’re speaking verbal or non-verbal cues, tell your preschooler that they are safe and will have a blast on their first day.
Focused Not Freaked
My sassy little girl loves the lime light, and my freak-outs certainly take too much of her attention. Try to remain focused on who this moment is all about and you’ll find yourself freaking out less and supporting your preschooler more. After all, even if they aren’t afraid for their first day of school, they may be feeling some kind of anxiety. Less freaking out gives you the focus to watch for those signs.
Freak-Outs Aren't Fun
Let’s be honest, freaking out isn’t fun. Emotions run high, anxiety is at its peak, but letting the freak-outs get the best of you won’t send your intended message. Remind yourself, and your preschooler, that school and learning is fun. Reading children’s books on the first day of school and listing the skills your child will learn while away will help soothe both of your worries.
It's Really Not Cute, Mom
Take it from a lady that has too much evidence of being the freaked out mom, it really isn’t cute to be so. Your freaked out energy is not only damaging your little one’s experience, but also isn’t good for your physical health. Least we forget the images of your mascara streaked face.
Promote Healthy Self Esteem
No one wants to see you upset, especially not your little one! They would do anything to make you feel better, even force a smile. As they head off to preschool, create an honest and supportive space to express how they are feeling. As the adult, put your anxiety aside to allow the space of comfort your child may one day need. Let them know that a healthy self esteem and honest relationship is matters most to you.
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