Q&A: My four-year-old refuses to learn how to color or write. Should I be worried?
My son will be four years old soon. He is loving, intelligent, and very detail oriented. However, I am concerned that he is not the least bit interested in coloring (he does know his colors though) or learning to write. He can recite the alphabet and even pick out some letters. When we try to sit down with him to work on writing or coloring he refuses. He is in a wonderful early enrichment program and based on the projects he brings home, he refuses there as well. Should I be concerned about this delayed 4-year-old development?
I need to reassure you right off the bat that this doesn’t mean that your son is delayed in his development. Skills like letter identification are tasks for five and six year olds to master.
True, many four year olds can already write their names and some can even read, but such achievements are not expected of a child who is not even four.
The coloring is also not expected to be particularly good at your son’s age (i.e. between the lines) and many three-year-olds would prefer to spend their time working on their gross motor skills through activities like riding a tricycle or climbing.
A child of almost four should be able to answer most of the following questions:
- What is the color of grass?
- Where does a fish live?
- A refrigerator is cold, a stove is _______.
- I wake-up in the morning, I go to bed at _______.
- He should be able to repeat four digits spoken to him and to follow a command with three separate parts.
- He should copy a square, catch a big ball and draw a person with about six body parts.
If your son can perform these tasks, he is most likely on target with his development.