The Case Against Spanking
- It’s harmful emotionally for you. Few parents feel wonderful after hitting a child. Spanking often leads to remorse, guilt, and doubts about the quality of your own parenting skills. Avoid the agony — resist the urge to smack. It’s a very unpleasant sensation to feel like a bully.
- It’s harmful emotionally for the child. Spanking is traumatic, makes a child feel as though there’s something wrong with her (instead of something wrong with her behavior), creates resentment, and can lead to body image problems.
- Spanking tells a child she is powerless. A powerless person will act out, leading to more problems.
- Spanking is disrespectful to the child, and it doesn’t help teach respectful values or standards.
- It breaks trust and invades a child’s sense of security.
- It halts effective communication.
- Where do you go from there? Once you resort to physical discipline, the only steps up are more, or stronger, physical discipline. Don’t start down that path.
- It doesn’t work!!! In the very, very short term, you may stop the misbehavior. The backlash is not worth the very, very short term.
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