Parenting Your Child's Temperament: Part One
Tips on how to understand and accept your child's temperament
A Word of Caution!
Although learning to distinguish temperamental traits will ultimately help you understand and work with your child’s temperament, it is important to note that over a third (35%) of the children in Chess and Thomas’ study did not fit neatly into any of the three groups. If you are confounded by your child’s behavior, you might be tempted to assign them to one of these categories and say, “So that’s why she acts this way, she’s difficult.” Doing this might initially assuage your confusion, but it can also cause you to misread or inadvertently ignore your child’s needs.
Labeling your child is also hurtful and counterproductive. Calling your child “difficult,” “shy” or even “easy going” makes it hard for them to see themselves as anything else. Distilling the totality of a child down to a single adjective is like describing a smooth, gooey chocolate ice cream cone as “cold.”
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