10 Golden Rules of Positive Parenting
Want positive children? Be a positive parent! Psychologist, author, and parenting expert Dr. Debbie Glasser shares her top 10 rules for positive parenting.
Understand Your Child's Behavior
When you empathize with why your child is behaving as he is, you’ll be better able to respond appropriately and effectively. Dr. Glasser suggests you cover your bases by stocking up on child development books and enrolling in a parenting class.
Find opportunities to prevent misbehavior. For example, if your toddler typically has a tantrum when he’s overtired or hungry (don’t we all?), be sure to provide rest time and healthy snacks. Avoiding situations that trigger misbehavior is half the battle.
Discipline with Love
Children feel safe and secure when parents set clearly defined limits for behavior. The key for positive parenting is to set these limits with love and respect, and then enforce them consistently and with your child’s best interests in mind. Tell your child about the rules and the consequences in advance, and then follow through when necessary.
Have fun together as often as possible! Make time daily to enjoy your children’s company and share in their lives. Little moments spent being goofy or cooking together build relationships. These are the times that you—and your children—will remember most.
Encourage Your Child's Efforts
It’s easy to focus on misbehavior (remote control in the toilet again??) but equally as important to pay attention to positive behavior. Offer encouragement when your children take turns or treat others kindly. Catch them being good as often as you can.
Some extracurricular activities can enrich children’s lives, but too many can make the whole family feel overwhelmed. Take time to catch your breath so you can all enjoy a little downtime. Downtime is important.
Take Care of Yourself
It’s hard to focus on other people’s needs when you’re stressed out or overwhelmed. Make time do to things that you enjoy and find relaxing. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need a break. Repeat after us, Mom: I need some help, please!
Be a Good Role Model
You are your child’s first and most influential teacher. Your children learn by watching you, so be mindful of what you say and how you treat other people. Be positive! Be patient! Be kind!
Offer opportunities for your kids to care for the house and their belongings. Most young children enjoy helping out and it’s a wonderful habit for them to adopt. As an added bonus, you’ll have more time to spend with your kids—and a (somewhat) cleaner house!
Love Your Kids Unconditionally
Never forget to tell your children how much you love them. Show your love with words, lots of hugs and kisses, and by spending time with them.
(Now go hug your kids!)
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