In the Baby Zone with Cindy Crawford

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You know her face, her physique, her signature mole—but did you know that Cindy Crawford gave birth at home, twice? The self-proclaimed "mom, businesswoman, model" gets real about home birth as part of the More Business of Being Born DVD series. Birthing son Presley (born July 1999) and daughter Kaia (born September 2001) could not have been more different, she says. "With the first, I was very inward—my eyes were closed, I didn't even scream," she explains. "With my daughter, I was screaming every profanity. It was really liberating, to be primal like that. I was a crazy woman—and I just don't allow myself to be that way in everyday life."

Here, Crawford dishes about parenting in the moment.

What's your golden rule of parenting?

Not to have any rules, because the second you make a rule there's a situation where you have to break it and the kids learn to not respect rules. But, in our home, we do believe in respect and kindness—that's what our family is about. Parent to kid, kid to kid, and parent to parent.

Describe the best moment of parenting so far.

When you, as they say, "catch them being good." Or when someone, unsolicited, says, "Oh, your son was being so kind" or "Your daughter was so nice." We all like the outside validation. And as parents, we see the worst—they lose their stuff with us—so it's good to hear otherwise.

Though my kids do fight, I love when I see the deeper relationship that they have. My husband and I both have siblings that we are close to, so it's important to us to see them be close.

And the worst?

For a while my husband had this thing he would say, "Don't be a little whine-stein." One time, he said that to our daughter. I chimed in and said, "Yeah, Kaia, don't be a whine-stein." And she said, "Then don't be a yell-stein." Out of the mouths of babes!

Best advice you ever got?

Not to wish, "I can't until they're walking…" "I can't wait until they're talking…" or "I can't wait until they start school." Everything changes so fast—and you don't want to wish the present away for the future, because later you'll be wishing the present away for the past. It's about being in the moment.

What's the one thing you can't live without?

I can't live without a schedule. It helps me organize my life so that I have time for the things that I need to do—and for what I want to do.

Finish this sentence: You know you're in the Baby Zone when...

… you spend way more time getting your kids together than yourself—and you walk out the door looking awful.