Never Underestimate the Power of Girls Night Out
Let’s face facts… when you become a mom, life changes drastically. Along with those unbelievable moments of empowerment (I helped create a human being! And then delivered that human being into the world! I’m a rock star!) are some equally unfortunate revelations: I’ve worn this shirt three days in a row and only just noticed. I now refer to myself in the 3rd person (Mommy) at all times. So this is my hair’s natural color!
I’m not complaining, of course.
Priorities change and quite frankly, reservations at the hip new restaurant or show just aren’t as important anymore. Paramount is the little one who’s smiling (or crying… or pooing… or giggling) right here at home. But Mamas, here’s where I jump on my box of forgotten high heels (please note: this is as much for me as it is for you).
We are highly important to this equation.
It’s simply crucial to maintain some semblance of the life you had pre-baby. Having at least one conversation with your partner per night that doesn’t involve poopy diapers is a great place to start. When you’ve mastered the art of regular conversation again, plan a date night.
And Mamas, never underestimate the power of a good girls night out. Friendships are that much more important once you become a mother. Heading out for a night on the town (even a coffee break at a cafe down the street) will remind you that underneath the sweatpants and the pureed peas on that three day old shirt, you’re also a friend – a wife – a daughter – perhaps a sister. I’ve found that just a little break to clear my head and think about something other than diaper rash makes me a more patient and appreciative mom when I come home. Sure, if it’s the first or second time that you’ve left your baby, you may feel slightly guilty leaving the house. That’s completely natural and to be expected (especially when you go to grab your wallet and put your hand on a rattle or pacifier instead). But once you recognize that your baby is doing perfectly fine at home, please understand that taking a small break to stay connected with your friends is simply good for the soul. There’s no question that I took my “free time” with friends for granted before having babies. Well, now that quality time with my gals is in much smaller doses, I can tell you I value them even more.
So there you have it. Call your posse, put a date on the calendar and pull out those heels. Laugh. Drink a glass of wine (or three). Hear a recap on your friend’s date last week. I guarantee you that you’ll come home feeling refreshed and ready to re-enter the world of Mommyville. And if nothing else, it will get the theme song from “Max and Ruby” out of your head for a few hours.
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