Not in the Mood? Get Your Sexy Back, Mama!
You used to look at your bed as a place for sleep and nookie—now you're excited to just sleep. So how to get from here (pumping and changing diapers all day) to there (cue bow chicka wow wow)? Read on, new mom...
One Word: Delegate
You’ll be a lot more in the mood if you feel like a human again. “Explain to your husband that if he wants a shot at scoring, you’re going to need a massage/bath/nap/yoga class first,” says Jenna McCarthy, a mom of two, blogger, and author of The Parent Trip: From High Heels and Parties to Highchairs and Potties. “Then hand him the baby and tell him to come find you after she’s fed, bathed, and sound asleep!”
Find Sexier Sweatpants
“I rarely felt sexy after having my son,” admits Adriana Mancuso Moniz, a mom of one who blogs at Just By Living. “After a few months of moping around in old pjs, covered in baby barf, and never so much as brushing my hair, I decided I needed to make a change. I bought a few pairs of cute jammies and some nicer leggings and tops … Feeling more sexy led to more sexy thoughts, and more sexy thoughts led to, well, sex!”
Get Out of the House
“We have a babysitter at least once a month, if not more,” says blogger Sarah Preston Gorenstein, a mom of one in Chicago. “I’ll put on makeup and a new dress, and blow my hair out. No matter how tired I am at the outset, an evening out with my husband puts me in the mood.”
Experiment a Little
There’s no shame in products that can help you get ready for game time, STAT! McCarthy is a fan of Zestra, a feminine arousal oil that’s clinically proven to be safe, and is applied topically to your lady bits before sex. As she says, “It’s like two hours of foreplay in a bottle. Zing!”
Fake It 'Til You Make It
You may feel like the Queen of Frumpville, but you’d be surprised by how sexy you still are to your partner. “At first I felt annoyed that my husband was flirting with me instead of letting me sleep when the baby slept,” says Chelsea Brady, a mom of one in California. “But then I started flirting back. Even if my heart wasn’t in it, I’d find myself really feeling sexy—and enjoying the attention—within a few minutes.”
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