Easy Steps for Nurturing Your Marriage
- Put your arm around your husband. Hug him and kiss him for no reason at all—he may wonder what you’re up to!
- Hold his hand when you go places together. Did you know touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love and can actually alter our physical and emotional states?
- Show extra compassion when he is sick. Fluff his pillow and tuck him in bed. Offer to make him tea or run a bath for him. Warm his towel in the dryer when he’s ready to get out of the water.
- Write him a note or buy him a card and leave it in his shirt pocket, his briefcase, his lunchbox, or on the dashboard in his car. My husband loves this one!
- Don’t forget to spend some time alone together. Plan a date night! Make the dinner reservations, buy tickets to the game, hire the babysitter, and enjoy time as a couple.
- Massage his back, neck, or feet for 20 minutes. What a simple way to help him relax and show you care. (And while you’re doing this unselfishly, there’s always a chance he’ll return the favor some time!)
- Without mentioning it to your husband, do a household chore that is normally his responsibility.
- The next time you start to spend five dollars on yourself, spend it on him instead. He’ll enjoy the gift and the realization that you were thinking about him.
- Make it a point to say something kind about your husband to someone else. He probably won’t even know you’ve done this, but it will make you feel good and can change the way you look at him. You may be surprised at how well this works!
- Thank him for the everyday things: being a good provider, a good husband, taking out the trash, or making dinner after a busy day.
- Surprise him with his favorite meal for no reason.
- Talk to him about current events (yes, even sports!) that interest him, even if they don’t interest you.
- If you pray together, be sure to vocalize thanks for him in your prayers. It will mean a lot to him to hear your gratefulness. You’ll be amazed at the closeness this can create between two people.
- You and your husband probably work hard to earn money. Spend that money wisely. Excessive debt and shortage of money puts unnecessary strain on a marriage and will stress you both out, making everyone grouchy.
- When you run errands, be sure to ask him if he needs or wants anything. In other words, be thoughtful.
- Be sociable and friendly with his friends, work associates, and family, no matter how you really feel about them.
- Be polite. Say “please,” “thank you,” and “you’re welcome.” We often have a tendency to be more polite to strangers and mere acquaintances than we are to the ones we love most.
- Praise him sincerely for a job well done. Tell him how great the newly painted nursery looks or that the landscaping he put in is terrific.
- Spend time talking about his dreams and goals—and yours. Communication is key to a healthy marriage.
- Say “I love you!”
This list may not work miracles, but doing just one of the suggested items each day can help you rekindle some of the spark that you once had with the man in your life. Try it every day for a week. You’re sure to see a difference, not only in your marriage, but in your entire family as well. Remember, happy couples are the foundation for happy families!
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