Get Your Groove On: How to Feel Sexy Again after Baby
Maintaining a passionate sex life while raising young children can be a real challenge, but the benefits are definitely worth the effort. Ready to rev up your sex life? Here are 10 fun tips to help you spice it up!
Get some new pjs.
Throw out those footie pajamas, Mama! What you sleep in sends a message to your mate, and flannel does not say, “I’m in the mood for love!” You don’t have to wear an ultra-sexy (read: uncomfortable) negligee either. Sometimes a tank top or strategically tight T-shirt can be just as effective. If you feel cute wearing it, it’s a go!
Saying something nice to your spouse will make you feel closer to one another. “Hey, love that shirt,” “I’m so proud to be seen with you,” “You’re such a hottie,” “Your garage is so clean and organized,” “Nice butt!” Whatever works!
Many moms find that they are simply too tired to enjoy sex at bedtime. Try it in the morning before your kids wake up—or “nap” (aka hot, quick sex; a noon-er; a quickie) when your children nap. Again, whatever works.
Catch him off-guard.
At dinner one evening, whisper sweet nothings over the mashed potatoes (or maybe an aphrodisiac food you happened to prepare). Your husband won’t be able to get the kids to bed fast enough while you slip into something more comfortable (refer back to slide one on what to slip into).
Have a slumber party.
Actually, have two. Set the kids up with a movie, snacks, and their blankets and pillows. When everyone is comfy, you and your husband go to another part of the house for your own time together. Maybe a tent set up in the backyard? Why not? (Remember, get creative.)
Don't be afraid to take drastic measures.
Someone—who will remain nameless—once shared that she and her husband got so desperate for sex that they put on a kids’ DVD, handed each of their four children a fruit roll-up, and then ran upstairs for a quickie. Well, if that’s what it takes…
Try something new.
In a rut, Mama? Novelty can be a turn-on, so step out of that box! Try a different restaurant or splurge on a new outfit. Just get out of your usual routine. (Hmm, maybe it will lead to a new position later that night.)
Plan an at-home date.
While one spouse is putting the kids to bed, the other can pick up take-out. You may eat dinner late, but if you can enjoy a meal without having to shout over the kids, isn’t it a good trade?
Hire a babysitter.
Indulge in a night out or spend the night in and escape to your own room for a movie, dinner in bed, and some serious cuddling, while your babysitter tends to the kids (uh, what kids?) downstairs.
After the kids have been put to bed and your husband is picking up toys, surprise him by dressing up in your best outfit and invite him upstairs for dessert and drinks. Or on the sly, arrange for your children to spend the night with grandparents or friends and enjoy a date with your husband—make dinner reservations or pick up his favorite take-out, quick change into a fun and flashy outfit on your way home from work, and treat him to a surprise night out (or in!).
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