Trying To Be Positive As I Lose The Baby Weight
It's not always easy, but I'm trying my best to snap out of the self-doubt as I try to lose the baby weight.
A while back I wrote about the state of my baby weight – how I wasn’t fretting about all the weight I gained with my second pregnancy. I was determined to stay positive on the journey of losing weight and getting back to being fit, especially for my girls’ sake as I know how important it is for me to instill in them a healthy self-esteem. Truth be told, though, it’s becoming a lot harder than I thought to remain positive.
I’ve battled with body image for as long as I can remember. I went through puberty earlier than other girls in my school, which began my spiral of being self-conscious about my body. It’s been 24 years of this up and down consumption of my brain worrying about how I look. I’ve gained and lost and gained and lost throughout this entire time, and I’ve relished in the fact that during pregnancy, it was OK to gain. Yet now here I sit trying to stay positive as I watch the scale as it slowly goes down after delivering my second daughter.
I was super healthy and fit before I got pregnant for the second time. And focusing on the healthy aspect and achieving fitness goals kept me less focused on the number on the scale. I’m trying to get back into that mindset right now as I know I was the happiest about my self-image a year ago when I was celebrating being able to run three miles and giving myself a pat on the back for being able to create healthy meal plans for my family, and execute them without stress, as a full-time working mom.
Most days I’m able to stay positive about getting back on track, which is probably due to the busy that consumes my life and my inability to have enough down time to be too consumed with how much I weigh. Yet other days, feelings of doubt creep into my head. And I begin to feel sorry for myself as I look in the mirror and I don’t like what I see. I know that this isn’t healthy, mentally, for me, nor is it for my family because when I’m sad and down, I know it affects those around me.
So right now, I’m trying my best to stay positive and remind myself that slow and steady is the best and there isn’t any magic to speed it up. It’s all about making beneficial changes to create a healthy and sustainable lifestyle. Here are some of the things I’m doing to help me stay focused on this:
- Clean Eating – I’m trying to keep tabs of the foods I’m putting in my body. Some days I count calories, but other days I just don’t have the time. I remember back to before getting pregnant with my second daughter, that eating less processed and more whole foods helped me to achieve fitness goals. (NOTE: Counting calories for me has mostly been for me to make sure I’m consuming enough to have an adequate breast milk supply for my daughter.)
- Lay Off The Scale – I have to constantly remind myself not to step on the scale. I’d do this every morning and it wasn’t good for my soul. I’d just end up disappointed. Instead I use self-talk and tell myself that once a week is OK. And I’ve decided that I’m setting a goal to not jump on the scale until March is over. Once a month will keep my obsessive thoughts about weight at bay.
- Have a Buddy – I’ve found that having a buddy on this journey of mine to be fit and healthy helps to motivate me. I just started doing this a few days ago. We are holding each other accountable and it’s also fun to be motivated by others.
- Reach Out – The last time I was down about how much I gained with this pregnancy (60lbs) and how slow it’s been to take the weight off, I reached out to my online community. I was honest with my feelings of doubt and struggle and they helped to lift me up with their stories of baby weight gain and how long it took them to take it off. Sometimes I need a reality check from other momma’s to help me get back on track.
- Be Grateful For What I Have – I know lots of momma’s who would give anything to have children, yet they struggle. I know how lucky I am to have my two amazing girls. And in doing so, my body changed. Many women wouldn’t bat an eyelash at the changes in their body if they could just have a healthy baby in the end.
- Change Doesn’t Happen Over Night – I have to remind myself that you can’t snap your fingers and transform into whatever it is you want to be. It takes time. Quick fixes to get change to happen could be detrimental, and most likely won’t stick. Slow and steady is the way to go.
- Take Cues From Your Spouse – My husband loves me unconditionally, no matter what size or shape I’m in. And he reminds me constantly. I’ve got to stop questioning this and know that he will support me in whatever I chose to do and not love me any less just because I’ve gained all this baby weight. And for what it’s worth, I’m pretty sure he’s so grateful for what my body can do to create such amazing beings.
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