17 Ways For Mama to Quickly Get Her Groove Back
Having a baby is no doubt a wonderful, truly rewarding experience, but it takes a lot of energy, responsibility and dedication. And things can get stressful from time to time—especially if it's your first child. Between the constant feedings, figuring out your baby's patterns and needs and, oh yeah, that lack of sleep, it's easy to feel not only exhausted but overwhelmed. Here are 17 ways to quickly get back into your groove when you feel knocked off your balance.
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Get a Massage
Just looking at this photo of this woman makes me feel more relaxed. Can’t you almost smell the lavender oil? Can’t you hear Enya and her magical, echo-y voice singing words you can’t understand? Massages can take you to a different level of calm. The massage coupled with the whole idea of pampering yourself will help you feel centered. It’s like you’re saying to yourself, You work hard, mama. Your body has been through so much. You are giving yourself something you deserve.
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Have a Drink With a Friend
Go have a night or at least an hour with the grown-ups. Be social. Kick back. And talk about anything BUT diapers and pureed food. Talk about food, fashion or the latest episode of “House Hunters.” Get crazy! And don’t be embarrassed when you excuse yourself to leave because extreme exhaustion plus a gin and tonic can have you falling asleep at the bar.
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Watch an Empowering or Uplifting Movie
After you’ve tucked the wee-one in, sit down and watch a movie that makes you feel good, one that pumps you up. Watch a movie that will uplift your mood like It’s a Wonderful Life, The Sound of Music or Good Will Hunting. Or watch one that will make you feel like a bad ass, like Rocky, Thelma and Louise or anything with Jean Claude Van Damme in it.
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Give Yourself a Pep Talk
Go to a mirror, look in it and get all Tony Robbins on yourself. Seriously. It’s you who knows yourself best. Tell that person in the mirror how wonderful she is, how strong she is and how fiiine she looks in those yoga pants, er, trendy jeans. It will increase your energy and boost your attitude and confidence.
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When you’re having one of those days, when you can’t hear your thoughts through baby’s crying, nothing you do seems to help, and his reflux along with your feelings of helplessness have you covered in spit-up and shame…OR when something less dramatic is going on and you just feel generally cloudy, take 10 minutes to meditate and clear your mind of EVERYTHING. It will help you reset and flush yourself of stress, worry and that feeling that you sometimes get when you’re a mom. You know, the one where you want to hide in the closet.
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Take a Power Nap
When you feel like you’re dragging and low on energy stores—POWER NAP! It is said that power naps of less than 30 minutes restore wakefulness and promote performance, memory and reaction-time. What mom doesn’t need all those benefits? The trick is convincing yourself that napping, not cleaning your house (or working, paying bills, etc.), while baby sleeps is time better spent.
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Watch YouTube Tutorials and Learn Some Fresh Dance Moves
Get your groove back by getting your groove on. What could make you feel more fresh than busting out with “The Dougie” or the “Harlem Shake” next time a dance floor presents itself? And though you may not get to a club anytime soon, you’ll feel cool knowing that you have some sick moves in your arsenal. And if anything, it ought to give you a good laugh. And laughing is always good.
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Most of us can attest to the way that scents have the ability to trigger different emotions, memories and sensations in us. Like how the scent of shaving cream makes me remember the time my older brother shaved my forearms in the bath when we were 3 and 5. Studies have shown that a simple scent from a lighted candle or essential oils can bring about a strong mind and body reaction, and that it can have healing qualities. Lavendar, rose and vanilla are said to help with anxiety. Clove, eucalyptus and lemon are supposed to be good for fatigue. And the scents “fresh laundry” or “Lysol” are good for making you feel like your house is clean, even when it’s not.
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It can be difficult to motivate yourself to hit the gym or pop in that Hip Hop Abs workout DVD when you’re bone-tired and want to veg, but you’ll feel so amazing once you’ve done it. You’ll be burning calories and building muscle. And you’ll be instantly rewarded for your efforts with a burst of endorphins, giving you that “workout high.”
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When you smile, genuinely smile, you instantly uplift your mood, as well as the moods of those around you. Think of a happy memory or one of your favorite places. Or, better yet, look at your baby and think about all the blessings in your life. Smile and the good vibes will follow.
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Go Get Waxed
Though it hurts like hell, the aftermath of waxing is amazing. Your legs and/or bikini line (and in my case, my upper lip) are hair-free and smooth as a sphinx. And a sphinx you are, hot stuff. A pair of waxed legs (with or without a waterfall cascading down behind them–see photo) will make you feel sexy and pampered.
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Well, don’t eat a whole stack of chocolate. That may make you feel worse later. But DO indulge in eating a piece or small portion of chocolate. Not only will it make your mouth happy and boost your mood, but studies have shown that eating chocolate can reduce stroke risk, lower blood pressure and aid in protecting your skin from sun damage. What?! Is this real life?
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Take a Walk With a Friend
Get the blood pumping while also connecting with a friend. Sometimes all you need is some fresh air and time with someone whom you can talk to about “Kimye”‘s new, ridiculous music video or your new cronut obsession.
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Do Some Yoga
That’s right. Downward Dog your worries and cares away. Whether at a studio or in your living room, an hour of yoga will have you feeling right. Working on your fitness, your strength, your flexibility and your mind will feel fantastic. And it will also justify your love of yoga pants. OK, “help” justify.
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Get a Manicure
Or just paint your own nails at home. There’s just something about having polished nails that makes you feel more, well, polished. Looking down and seeing your pretty painted nails makes you feel like you have it all together, even when they are wiping up a tush or regurgitated food.
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Read a Book or a Magazine—Something Not Related to Babies
That time when you pull up to the house or when you arrive early to an appointment and baby is still asleep in her car seat is a perfect time to catch up on Hollywood Smut or the latest Style trends in your favorite magazines. Taking time to read smutty magazines instead of a chapter of “What to Expect the First Year” is pure, unadulterated indulgence.
Lie in the Grass and Look Up at the Clouds in the Sky
When you lie in the grass and look up at the clouds you’ll connect with the innocence and joy you felt as a child with an appreciation for the simple pleasures in life. And to hear and see your little one toddle around you while you lie there will only magnify your joy.
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