One Mom's Surprising Connection With Kourtney Kardashian
It's a good reminder that we may have more parenting choices in common with otherwise unlikely friends than we realize.
One thing I’ve never done is keep up with the Kardashians. I’m not a big fan or reality TV so I’ve never watched their show. While I’ve heard of them, my knowledge of their family is limited, but I didn’t think I had anything in common with them. Turns out, Kourtney and I share similar parenting styles.
I didn’t set out to be an attachment parent. I knew I wanted to be a “good mom,” but I didn’t know much about parenting styles until after I had my daughter. I parented her in the way that felt the most natural to me and seemed to work the best with my baby’s needs. It seems Kourtney and I both fell into attachment parenting. When asked about attachment parenting in a recent interview with Redbook, Kourtney responded, “It’s what came naturally to me; I didn’t plan it. When I had Mason, I just felt really attached to him, and wanted to bring him everywhere. He ended up sleeping with me, and I breast-fed for 14 months.”
I could definitely relate to her statement. Everything I knew about raising kids before having my own changed when my daughter was born. Many of our parenting choices aligned with attachment parenting principles, such as extended breastfeeding, babywearing and co-sleeping. None of it was planned though. I had planned on breastfeeding, but only through the first year initially. I didn’t know what babywearing was until I suddenly found myself on the hunt for a baby carrier. Before kids, I was against co-sleeping, but my daughter had different plans. My parenting style developed in response to my baby’s needs and found what worked for us.
Most of my family is supportive about how I choose to parent my children. If I had to classify my parents’ approach to raising me, I’d say they used gentle parenting. Otherwise, attachment parenting was not really practiced in my family that I’m aware of. I didn’t know anyone who wore their babies when I started wearing mine. Like Kourtney, I do have some family members who raise an eyebrow at extended breastfeeding and co-sleeping. Kourtney told People magazine, “It’s just what came natural to me. They definitely all think I’m insane in my family for having them in the bed and breastfeeding them for forever. But I couldn’t care less.”
When I meet other moms, I don’t announce my parenting style or inquire about theirs. Some aspects, such as babywearing or breastfeeding, may be easily observed, others may be learned about over time. Even with some common ground, it’s no guarantee that we share the same views on everything. It’s a good reminder that we may have more in common parenting-wise with others than we realize, perhaps even with the most unlikely of friends.
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