Raising a Kind Daughter Starts with Her Mama
In “Raising A Kind Daughter,” published recently in The Huffington Post, author Kari Kampakis reminds us in a beautiful essay, “Kindness among young girls doesn’t start on the playground or in the locker room—it starts at home. Most notably, it starts with kind mothers raising kind daughters.”
As a mother of two young girls, this article was right up my alley. Sure, they’re only 4 and 2, but we also know that children, right from the get go, are soaking up everything around them. Like little sponges, I only want them to soak up the good stuff. The best parts of me. In reading Kampakis’ post, I looked back as much as I looked forward—to a kind mother of my own, whom I never remember saying an unpleasant word about anyone. To the “mean girls” in my high school who often made me feel like I didn’t fit in. To the close bond I still have with my college friends, despite the distance between us. To the special emphasis I make with friends close by, as it’s easy to get caught up in the world of motherhood and lose some of yourself—friendships included.
Kampaskis writes, “Our girls see how we treat our friends. They also notice how we we treat their friends.” If nothing else, the article reminded me that just as our children are learning to write their names and remember to look both ways as they cross the street, they are also paying close attention to our relationships.
Of all the many things that we wish for our children (and there are many!), I pray that they will be kind. Empathetic. Caring. That they will have friends that they can count on, and that can count on them. And those lessons start with me.
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