However, when couples conclude that they want to have a baby, and that the time to conceive is finally now, surprising things sometimes happen. Sex takes on an entirely different meaning; it is no longer just about pleasure, fun, and enjoying each other. Often when couples are trying to conceive it becomes about the intimacy of their relationship, the level of trust they have with each other, and about how ready each individual truly feels about having a baby.
And now, sex comes with pressure. Sex becomes more about the goal of conception and less about the process itself. Now sex is rated not on satisfaction, but on success. Now sex is actually graded pass/fail.
This success-oriented focus on sex can lead to problems for both partners. Sometimes the pressure is too much, and one or both partners develop issues in an area in which they never had issues before. Maybe they've become frigid, or unable to obtain or maintain an erection, or are just so uncomfortable that they don't actually want to have sex anymore. Sex turns into a chore instead of an opportunity to bask in the intimacy a couple shares with each other.
The more you practice with each other, the more likely you will be stronger and healthier as a couple by the time you do conceive.