30 Days of Thanks: Grateful for Pregnancy Perspective
Pregnancy isn't the most glamorous at times, but with a bit of pregnancy perspective, I've learned to appreciate all those not so fun moments of growing a baby
Though you come out on the other end with the most prized possession ever—a freshly-baked newborn to snuggle—pregnancy isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. The things your body goes through aren’t always the prettiest or the most fun. Then, there are all the limitations that are placed upon you, physically and mentally. Pregnancy is the beginning of you no longer having full control over your life—way before baby arrives.
This is my second time at the pregnancy rodeo, and I’ve grown so much since giving birth to my oldest daughter four years ago. She’s helped me to grow into motherhood and that has affected me on so many levels. Overall, the biggest life lesson Abby has imparted since she joined our family is that it takes a whole lot more energy to be negative than positive.
Am I perfect on this front? Nope. But I do step back from the ledge of stress and anxiety a whole lot quicker than the past.
Because of that, and as I really open up my eyes to the world around me, I’m totally grateful to have some pregnancy perspective this second time around. My outlook on all the changes my body goes through, and the loss of control at times, is way different the second time around.
When I got pregnant with Abby, it felt like a rite of passage to complain about all the things. Feeling sick during that first trimester, sure, I’ll let you know all about it and get all, “Woe is me!” on you. Up all night because of my bladder, sure, I’ll complain the next day at work to anyone within earshot about how darn tired I am. Swollen feet? Well, that’s the worst thing ever and you need to know about it every single day they swell. And the heartburn, you MUST know how it’s the worst feeling in the world!
In retrospect, I probably spent more time complaining about pregnancy the first time around than enjoying it. I had no perspective. I was so self-involved. Everything revolved around me.
This pregnancy, though, I’ve learned to appreciate all that I’m able to have.
Getting pregnant was easy for us, yet I know so many people who’ve been trying for so long and have undergone gobs of fertility treatments in hopes of being able to conceive. Perspective.
I experienced way more morning sickness this second time around, yet it went away around 13 or 14 weeks. So many women struggle with hyperemesis gravidarum their whole pregnancy. Who am I to complain? And again, so many women would appreciate this symptom if they could just get pregnant. Perspective.
Dealing with all things pregnancy, while chasing after a very active preschooler, is hard work, exasperating my exhaustion on the daily. However, many women are experiencing secondary infertility and would give anything to have to deal with this. Perspective.
Having a bad cold during my last month of pregnancy and not being able to take most medications blows. But there are women out there who are fighting to keep their babies on the inside as preterm labor threatens the well-being of their unborn children. Perspective.
Struggling to get out of bed because of how pregnant you are, and breaking a sweat trying to do so, while feeling all sorts of aches and pelvic pains, isn’t my most favorite thing. Yet women can carry babies to full term only to lose them a short time after. Perspective.
Overall, I’ve really learned to appreciate all that my body is able to do and sustain. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my low moments. My husband probably gets the brunt of it. But ultimately, my mind is at a different place with this pregnancy. I feel blessed every day, even amidst the not so glamorous moments of pregnancy. I get to experience this miracle when so many are heartbroken trying to grow their families. I try to take it all in with perspective, which I’m so very much grateful for.
There’s so much to be thankful for, we can’t fit them all into one post! Check out BabyZone’s 30 Days of Thanks page to see all the things—great and small—that we can be grateful for each day.
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