Attachment Pregnancy: Bonding with Baby Before Birth
There’s a new pregnancy book on the block, and it’s founded on the parenting principals of Attachment Parenting. The Attachment Pregnancy: The Ultimate Guide to Bonding with Your Baby by Laurel Wilson and Tracy Wilson Peters teaches readers how to use this important time to bond with baby—even before they’re born.
With studies showing the tremendous impact parents have on their children from pregnancy to age five—quite possibly the biggest impact of their entire lives—The Attachment Pregnancy prompts readers to connect with their babies, at the deepest levels, from before birth and introduce them to a loving environment. Childbirth experts Wilson and Peters guide expecting parents through each stage of development with advice for providing consistent and nurturing care as the baby grows, so that they can ensure that his needs are always met.
With a multifaceted approach, The Attachment Pregnancy is broken into stages of pregnancy and acknowledges the many levels of conscious a parent moves through during a pregnancy. From the moment new moms become pregnant, we are connected to our offspring in profound ways. The first section of the book, Be-ing: The Beginning, urges mothers to be positive, be present, and to purposefully manifest the kind of pregnancy one wishes for their child. It focuses on the beginning of a journey towards attachment and motherhood with chapters on building supportive relationships, meditation and tips to maintaining a positive attitude.
As a newly pregnant woman, I recall finding myself in quiet moments of meditation – thinking, yearning and visualizing what my little girl might like. While reading the Be-ing section of the book, I reflected on those moments – when the attachment with my unborn child began to form, eventually giving birth to an Attached Parent – and am grateful to Wilson and Peters to putting on paper what so many new, buys moms often overlook: this time is precious, yet so powerful, and it’s important to remain present during the growth of your little one.
The subsequent parts of the book follow the physical and emotional journey of pregnancy. During the first trimester, mothers are urged to observe, to be mindful of the awe-inspiring connection their body is making to their child. This part provides tips and reminders for stress reduction and forming attachments to your baby before birth. Going into the second trimester, The Attachment Pregnancy focuses on nourishment. In a holistic approach, the book reminds mothers to nourish all parts of their being, forming attachments to their growing baby by loving and caring for yourself and loved ones. The Attachment Pregnancy ends with chapters on the third trimester, in which questions and the philosophy of attachment is pondered.
Attachment Parenting is a way of life. For me, it consists of babywearing, occasional co-sleep and listening to my child’s distinct needs. In my mother’s day (and probably also our Latino culture), parenting this way didn’t need a title; moms did what they needed to do to keep their infants happy and healthy. But in our current culture of constant—constant contact, constant input, constant movement—it’s nice to have a pregnancy book that reminds us to just be.
Overall, this is a must read. Mixed with inspirational and practical tips, The Attachment Pregnancy: The Ultimate Guide to Bonding with Your Baby is a beautiful gift of conscience and purpose for any expectant mother. From the moment a child is conceived, there is opportunity to further strengthen the bond with their mother.
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