Is It OK for a Man to Say "We're Pregnant"?
When announcing a pregnancy, should an expectant father say, "she's pregnant" or "we're pregnant"?
Imagine this scenario: You’re at a party when the husband of one of your friends calls for everyone’s attention, puts his arm around his wife, and proudly announces, “We’re pregnant!” Do you:
Think, “Yay! Good for them!”
Whisper under your breath, “Did he just say ‘We’re pregnant?’
Many men today have taken to announcing their family’s pregnancy by saying “We’re pregnant,” but most are blissfully unaware of the fact that most women’s reaction to this is more “B” than “A”. Not me, though. As a veteran of four pregnancy announcements (in addition to our three children my family had a pregnancy end in miscarriage), I’ve learned to find other ways to make the announcement. But is it really so bad for a husband to say “We’re pregnant?”
I get why women don’t like it. Men can’t literally get pregnant, so for them to say “we’re pregnant” is pretty silly. Women, on the other hand, do literally get pregnant, and have to suffer through all the trials of being pregnant. My wife, Heather, isn’t a fan of men saying “we’re pregnant” for this reason. She says that “men don’t have to deal with morning sickness, a sore back, difficulty sleeping, a changing body, not drinking wine, and a whole lot of other things! Only women do, and so only we get to say we’re pregnant!” I can see how, after going through all of that, women would roll their eyes at some dude saying “we’re pregnant.”
But I also get why men say it. No, men don’t physically become pregnant, but we (the good ones, at least), are there by our wife’s side through the whole pregnancy. With the pregnancy of our last baby, James, I rubbed Heather’s back every night, drove her to her weekly doctor’s appointments, cooked her bland food that she could keep down with hyperemesis, and did the chores around the house that she couldn’t. More important than all of that, though, is that having a baby is a journey a couple goes on together. Saying “we’re pregnant,” may not be technically right, but it’s in the spirit of a union that will be spent raising the child together.
“Yeah, yeah, yeah,” Heather would say. “But you don’t have to give birth.” And she’s right about that!
What do you think? Is it okay for a man to say “we’re pregnant?”
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