A Real-Life Pregnancy: Week 17
Thinking About Gender and Names
Wow, the realization hit me this week that I’m almost halfway there! How amazing to think that in another four and half months, I will have my little baby with me to hold and love and cherish! My husband and I are so excited—but we still have no idea what to expect! Everyone has lots of advice (sometimes, a little too much), but we know our experience will be different from other people’s. We have never done this before! Will we do the right thing? How will we know what to do?
It’s a … ?
I started to feel the baby moving, mostly kicking and boxing, this week. It’s an interesting feeling and hard to explain. Others were telling me that they feel a buzzy feeling, like a butterfly in their tummies. Well, I’ve got a kickboxer. Everyone says it’s a boy.
Which brings me to the hot topic for the week—all my friends/relatives/complete strangers keep asking, “Are you going to find out if it is a boy or a girl?” That’s a hard question. I have several friends who wanted to know the sex of their baby as soon as possible. But we’ve decided that we don’t want to know. We want the surprise after the challenges of childbirth (which I am not going to think about yet) and have the excitement of deciding at that special moment on a name—we have several selected already.
Some of my friends think we’re crazy. After all, our halfway-mark ultrasound is coming up and that’s usually when you find out. For us, we had to remember to tell the ultrasound technician not to say anything about the gender (no hints, either!).
Still, some of my friends think they know the sex of our baby anyway—no ultrasound needed. One friend says you can tell based on how you’re carrying the baby (high or low), what you’re eating, or what month you created Baby. Me, I’m waiting until I can be 100 percent sure.
But if you’re up for some good entertainment, you too can figure out the sex of your baby, according to several websites out there. Many sites will give you fun charts using the Chinese lunar calendar, your conception date, even your wedding ring to figure out whether you should be buying blue booties or pink. Sure, these methods aren’t accurate, but it can be fun. Actually, if you think about it, any of these methods has a 50 percent chance of being right☺. It’s all in fun, so enjoy, but don’t get your hopes up one way or the other if you have a preference!
Fun with Names
With all this excitement and the baby growing every day, we’ve been having some fun conversations about names. Everyone comes up with names for a reason, whether for personal enjoyment or respect for the past. In my husband’s family tradition, the last deceased family member’s memory is continued on through the next born child by using the first letter of that person’s name. His mother passed away a few years ago, and we are planning on continuing the tradition. It’s sorta sad to think about, but also moving and meaningful. Anyway, we have something to start with, now the challenge is selecting a boy and girl name that we like and that our little one will enjoy for the rest of his—or her—life.
I wonder sometimes if people walking by our house think we’ve lost it. See, we have to try out any name we come up with by yelling it out. We usually end up laughing hysterically in the end. We start out with legitimate names and then of course we just get silly. But it feels wonderful to think about which name we’ll soon be using a lot around our little house. Every once in a while I feel a little kick or fist pump after a certain name and we wonder if Baby is liking that one more than the others. Ha!
Waist measurement: 36.5 inches
Weekly weigh-in: 160 pounds
Pregnancy symptoms: Wow, I have a busy little bugger in there.
My favorite pregnancy anecdote for the week: People telling me, “Oh, you aren’t going to find out what it is! That’s so special! Get ready for lots of green and yellow baby presents.”
Pregnancy “first” of the week: Feeling the baby moving around! It’s an interesting feeling. At first I just thought it was my food being digested, but then I started realizing what it really was. I’ve found that at certain times of the day there is more activity than others.
Doctor’s visit: Not this week.
About the Photo: The above picture of the author was taken during her 17th week of pregnancy by Dean Lipoff.
Read the next installment: week 18
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