Breaking the Big News: Sharing Your Pregnancy
After telling family at the start of the second trimester, Satter told only a few people at work in her fifth month and didn’t start showing until her seventh month.
She did share the news in an unusual way with some of her colleagues, however, by putting it in writing. At the time she was chair of the American Indian, Alaska Native, and Native Hawaiian Caucus of the American Public Health Association. She told the members in a newsletter that she was expecting, and when she saw them at the annual meeting, “everyone was so wonderful and excited about the baby.”
Oliviya Chavka proceeded with caution when pregnant with her first child, Michael, waiting five months to tell people “to be sure that nothing would go wrong.” With her second son she waited only three months.
“The first time we did not know what to expect, so we were more careful,” explains Chavka, who also lives in Kent, Connecticut. “The second time we simply wanted to be on the safe side.”
Amy Trendel of San Diego also played it safe, telling most people at three months. “I’ve seen situations where people did end up having a miscarriage” after sharing the news with others early on, she says. “People were still coming up and congratulating them, and it was just heartbreaking.”
Out of the Blue
Sometimes a pregnancy is not really news to family and friends. With Trendel’s first child, “I think everyone thought it was about time,” she says, because she and her husband had been married more than four years.
A surprise announcement can create long-lasting memories, intended or not, such as with Sarah Marchman of Brooklyn, New York. She and her husband did a pregnancy test on the night of their first wedding anniversary. When the display showed positive, her husband called his mother on his cell phone and she called her mother on their home phone.
“My mother was asleep and thought I was calling to berate her for not wishing us a happy anniversary,” Marchman says. “She wasn’t sure the next day whether she had dreamed it or not.”
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