Guess I Didn't Get the Nesting Gene?
You're pregnant and supposed to go on a crazy cleaning spree, but what if you don't want to?
Pregnant women are supposed to clean like crazy when they go into nesting mode as they near the end of their pregnancy, right? Scrubbing faucet handles and door knobs with cotton swabs and toothbrushes. But what about those who don’t?
A recent study confirmed that nesting is ingrained, instinctual behavior. It’s not just a cute, stereotypical new mom thing. It’s such an expected part of pregnancy that I wondered if something was wrong with me because I didn’t want to clean.
Admittedly I am not the best housekeeper in the first place, but I kept waiting for that irresistible urge to scour the house from top to bottom during my first pregnancy. Sure, I would randomly decide to do something like wipe down the refrigerator handles, but that took all of two seconds out of my entire pregnancy. I just did the normal everyday stuff like buying needed gear, laundry, and the usual chores.
Others would try to tell me I was nesting when I gave my husband tasks to do, but I never felt it. Heck, I didn’t even pack my hospital bag until I went into labor with my daughter! Truth be told I wanted to nest. My house could have used a deep cleaning fueled by compulsion. I thought about it sometimes, but the motivation wasn’t there to actually do it.
Near the end of my second pregnancy I wondered if I’d go into nesting mode this time. I planned to make freezer meals but didn’t follow through. I ordered a closet organizer that is still in the box. Yeah, I much preferred to read and relax the best I could. I did pack my bags sooner though.
I’m not sure why I had no desire to prepare my home more. Maybe I already felt safe and comfortable? Maybe my energy was too tied up in all my extra appointments and gestational diabetes monitoring? Or I procrastinated too much? For awhile it made me question whether it was truly an instinct or a silly cliche like eating pickles with ice cream. Now I know I just don’t have that instinct unless shopping becomes recognized as the new modern nesting.
Were you a nester? What did you feel compelled to do before baby’s arrival?
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