Sure, people are going to ask questions and make comments about your impending due date—especially if it passes without the arrival of your baby. In most cases, though, friends and family aren't out to bug you; they're just excited and want to stay in the loop. Your reaction is up to you, which means it's perfectly fine to say your baby will arrive when he's ready—and you're OK with that. "Instead of saying over and over, 'I can't wait to have this baby,' try to be positive," recommends Axtell. "There are things that we can't control and this is one of them," she adds.
Talk to Your Doctor
Reach week 39 without giving birth and your doctor may start mentioning inducing labor. And depending on your situation, that may be exactly what you want. Kristin Arnold Ruyle, of Tampa, Florida, knew she'd have her parents' help only if she delivered while they were visiting, so she pushed her doctor to induce—and got her wish at 39 weeks. "I am so glad I did because even though the doctor said my daughter was only six pounds, she was over eight," Ruyle says now. "If I had waited I can't imagine how big she would be."
On the other hand, maybe you don't want labor induced. Typically doctors won't recommend that route unless it's medically necessary, according to Dr. Foley. But whatever your preference, you should communicate your feelings and ask plenty of questions to be sure you understand your doctor's advice. "It can be hard to speak your mind, but you're your own best advocate," Dr. Foley says, adding, "Some people have doulas who can advocate for them."