Romance During Pregnancy

Gumm believes it is important to do these things during pregnancy to take added stress off the wife and help ensure a happy pregnancy. "Birth is such a huge undertaking for women," he says. "Getting help from their spouse is so much more important than receiving help from their mother, sister, or mother-in-law."

It is important to keep in mind what the other person sees as loving and romantic. To some, love means a list of completed chores. For others, love is a quiet dinner alone. Still others cherish small, unexpected gifts. Romance should be fun, playful, tender, helpful, and astonishing—all things that moms- and dads-to-be need!

Stretch yourselves to speak the other person's language of love, and you will both feel more cherished as you face the ultimate expression of that love—the birth of your child. Being pregnant doesn't have to mean the end of your romance. Just remember to take all the time you can to focus on each other while you still can. When the joys and challenges of parenthood seem to take over your entire life, your marriage will be stronger for the laughter, sharing, and romance you shared while pregnant.

The following tips will help you keep your love alive throughout your pregnancy and into the baby years:

• Give one another massages with warm oil. Heat the oil in hot water until it is a comfortable temperature, and rub each other's feet and back with it. Almond oil is wonderful for this! For the grand finale, have your husband rub your stomach with smooth, circular motions. (Heaven!)
• Sprinkle your bedroom and bed with rose petals, and, as an added twist, sprinkle your tummy with petals. Remember that laughter is the basis of romance!
• Send each other e-mails during the day. Singer says just reminding each other that you're thinking of one another is a nice treat when you're so focused on getting the nursery ready and preparing for childbirth.
• Leave little notes telling one another what a great parent they are going to be. Sign them with one of the baby names you have been discussing for the child.
• Buy each other cards and gifts for no reason. You deserve a little something for hauling around an extra 30 pounds, and he deserves something for the big changes coming in his life!
• Get into the habit of going out alone a couple of times a month. It doesn't have to be a fancy restaurant. If money is tight, remember that taking a walk together can be just as romantic as a more expensive date.