Is it Okay to Combine Sibling Birthday Parties?
When your kids have birthdays close together the question of combining sibling birthday parties comes up. Is it OK or taboo?
I’ve been thinking about this question a lot the past few months. Even after deciding to plan a combined birthday party, I’m still pondering whether or not it’s OK. My children are about 25 months apart in age which means their birthdays are a little over a month apart. They are also during the holiday season.
Birthdays have always held a lot of significance for me. I know some people don’t put a lot of emphasis on them, but I always felt having your own special day was, well, special. A day to celebrate you! I didn’t have birthday parties every year, but there was always something just for me. I want my kids to feel special on their birthdays too.
My daughter’s birthday is Halloween so it’s perfect for parties. My son’s birthday falls smack dab in the middle of Thanksgiving and Christmas. I made a big deal out of my daughter’s first birthday. I mean, it was a milestone for all of us surviving that first year. This year she turns three and baby boy will turn one, but the thought of having almost back-to-back parties stresses me out. Their birthdays are close enough together to make two parties difficult but far enough apart that combining them seems somewhat unfair.
The attendees will be primarily family so it seems like overkill to have a separate party this year, but the date concerns among the holidays will be there every year. I’ve considered the party trade-off, but Halloween is hard to pass up. Then some December babies celebrate half birthdays in June, but my husband thinks that is a stretch. I figure in the future they’ll want to invite their friends too, which has to be taken into consideration. At least they are similar ages!
I’ve decided this year I will combine them since they are so young and my son won’t remember his first birthday party anyway—at least that’s what I keep telling myself. If they were further apart age-wise or it was a different time of the year, I doubt I’d try to combine them. Maybe we’ll have a private party—just the kids and us—on his birthday.
But at what age do you stop combining them? Perhaps just milestone years could have separate parties while the rest are combined? Or alternate who gets a big party each year?
Or maybe I’m over-thinking this whole thing?
What do you think? Is it ever okay to combine sibling birthday parties?
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