Cherishing the Baby Years
Are You Ready to Give it Away?
After talking with owners of stores that sell used baby items, the same theme kept popping up—moms think that items are much more valuable than they really are, because of the emotional attachment. One shop owner, Christine, told a weepy mom, “I don’t think you’re ready to give that up yet. Better give yourself some more time.”
My own husband snapped me out of my misery when he said, “You want me to take you to your mother’s house and see how sentimental you get?” There, she has all my clothes and things in my old room, just as I left it…twenty years ago! It worked.
Rose created a ritual she performs each year after her daughter’s birthday. “I began to purchase clear plastic storage boxes and made a rule that I could only harbor one item per year. I’d revisit each item, but could keep only one.”
A Concrete (or Bronze) Solution
Freeze time…it’s possible to do so. You can bronze baby shoes, create statues of baby feet and hands. Some people can even make a statue of you holding your baby’s hand. The process is so detailed now, that you can actually see fingerprints.
Being pregnant was the best time of Melanie’s life. She had a bellycast done when she was nine months pregnant, and says, “It is the perfect momento of me nurturing and growing my baby. I treasure it.”
Memories To Share
A wonderful way to preserve a bit of babyhood is by making a shadow box display of that special item—perhaps a christening dress ornately displayed or maybe a baby bonnet and pair of booties.
Create a memory box for each child. In the box I’ve created for my girls, I have their coming home outfits, first birthday cards, special artwork, small bags of snippets from their first haircuts—anything that has meaning.
Take lots of pictures. Almost every mom said that she wishes she had more pictures taken of herself when she was pregnant. Find a glamour photography studio that specializes in pregnant women.
It can be hard to do sometimes, but maintaining those baby books will also help ease some MMS.
New Memories To Cherish
We cannot hold onto every outgrown sleeper. Life is measured in new beginnings. So, take heart moms, new memories will fill our aching souls—the first dance recital, the first best friend, the first “I love you, Mom.”
I remember something my aunts used to say when I was little, not really understanding what it meant at the time. They would cup my face in their hands and say, “I will dance at your wedding!”
It was the knowledge that I would grow up—and the wish that they would be around to witness it.
Someone get me some tissue, please.
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